Safe Letter: Learning

05 Apr, 2026

Dear Kari,

I'm finally learning about how to safely get better as an avoidant, and it sounded like what you might be doing.

I wanted to tell you that things are making sense—I'm falling asleep, so not good with words.

You were right, of course. I'm in a similar position as you now, and who could have predicted?

I understand how emotions can just not be compatible with our avoidant brains. And we have to do things gradually, instead of the way I did it to myself.

I hope you know that I believe you. I'm having the experience for myself, and I have more empathy for you than ever.

I'm gonna do my best to get better, too.

I hope you're okay.

💤